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Created by Gary Lavery on September 12th, 2017.
THERE are many definitions of reflection and there are two definitions that I would like to deal with here. One is to give "serious thought and consideration" and the other one is to "throw back from a surface".
When we talk about reflecting back on our lives are we just giving serious thought and consideration to what we have achieved or not achieved or are we just seeing in our past lives a throw back of what we are now. Are we filtering our entire lives according to where we are at this precise moment in time and just seeing 'stuff' that supports it!
Of course the answer is really in the latter. When we reflect back on our year, our lives, our filters will filter it in accordance with where they are today and how they are thinking, today. So we will have different perceptions on good and bad events in our lives according to when we reflect on them.
I have seen written life histories from people who have re-written them several times over a series of years and, if you read them, you would think they are different people!
So what is the use of this?
Created by Gary Lavery on May 4th, 2017.
TIP 1 - No More "WHY..."
IT'S good explore, so let's look at language, and the problem that exists with the word "WHY".
When you ask someone "WHY did you do that?", what will you get? - You will get excuses, justifications, reasons, and in general, a defensive reaction.
When someone has done something, would it not be better to find out their intention behind the action? - Maybe they had a really good intention? - Maybe they were doing their best at the time?
So, from now on, we give you the challenge of removing the word "WHY" when challenging someone.
Do This Today:
The obvious instruction here is that we are going to use a string of different words to challenge someone, instead of just using the word ..."WHY". So what are we going to say instead? Use the phrase, "For what purpose" or "What was your intention". The thing here is that when you use these phrases, you find out what the persons higher level intention was when they did whatever they did. Often you will get a surprising answer and one that perhaps enlightens you as to the real reasons behind the action. Nice and simple, but huge results!
WOW! - Your half way there, now let look at this results changing TIP ...
Created by Gary Lavery on April 26th, 2017
WHAT IS IT THAT stands between you and having what you want? - Is it luck? - Do you need a lucky break? - Is success simply a matter of being in the right place at the right time or is it a case of, it isn't what you know, its who you know?
Let me tell you right now that none of these or true. Success is not about getting lucky, and failure is not about being unlucky. I believe it is all about you making the things happen that need to happen.
I once came across a story about a world famous golfer called Gary Player. Player was preparing for a tournament by practising his bunker shots when he was approached by an arrogant millionaire. The millionaire challenged Player to hole one of his next three shots. Player holed not one but two of the next three. The millionaire said "that is just pure luck man" from which Player answered "Maybe, but you know sir, the harder I practice, the luckier I get."
But the difference that makes the difference is ...