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Created by Gary Lavery on March 13th, 2018.
At some point in your life, I know you will have experienced those above situations. From a coaching perspective, I often ask my clients the above three questions, because it throws a curve ball, and brings up all kind of different things like: they didn't know how to start, they put blame outside themselves onto someone or something for not achieveing their goal, or they carried the belief of "I can't do it, it's just not me".
Maybe someone once told you that YOU CAN'T DO IT, and perhaps you turned those words into a self-fulfilling prophecy or limiting belief about yourself. "Gary, don't even go there, it will all go horribly wrong because its just not you, you can't do it."
If truth be told, I remember someone actually saying those exact words to me during a face to face conversation. If I ever needed the motivation to take action and prove others wrong, it was right there for me to grab. However I wanted to achieve this goal for ME, because it was really important to ME, and I believed deep down in my soul that I could do it for ME.
Did you know that WORDS only represent 7% of Human Communication? - Words can carry a lot of powerful weight, especially if they are said in the wrong context. They can turn any positive thoughts and feelings, into negative thoughts and feelings, just like the flick of a switch. Words can empower you or disempower you in a matter of seconds. From being in a real positive emotional state, you are left feeling like shit. Pardon my French.
YOU are the gatekeeper to your personal thoughts and feelings, don't let other people contaminate them with stuff THEY think is right for you, or negative about you. Stand guard.
Created by Gary Lavery on October 15th, 2017.
THERE are many definitions of reflection and there are two definitions that I would like to deal with here. One is to give "serious thought and consideration" and the other one is to "throw back from a surface".
When we talk about reflecting back on our lives are we just giving serious thought and consideration to what we have achieved or not achieved or are we just seeing in our past lives a throw back of what we are now. Are we filtering our entire lives according to where we are at this precise moment in time and just seeing 'stuff' that supports it!
Of course the answer is really in the latter. When we reflect back on our year, our lives, our filters will filter it in accordance with where they are today and how they are thinking, today. So we will have different perceptions on good and bad events in our lives according to when we reflect on them.
I have seen written life histories from people who have re-written them several times over a series of years and, if you read them, you would think they are different people!
So what is the use of this?
Created by Gary Lavery on September 26th, 2017
WHAT IS IT THAT stands between you and having what you want? - Is it luck? - Do you need a lucky break? - Is success simply a matter of being in the right place at the right time or is it a case of, it isn't what you know, its who you know?
Let me tell you right now that none of these or true. Success is not about getting lucky, and failure is not about being unlucky. I believe it is all about you making the things happen that need to happen.
I once came across a story about a world famous golfer called Gary Player. Player was preparing for a tournament by practising his bunker shots when he was approached by an arrogant millionaire. The millionaire challenged Player to hole one of his next three shots. Player holed not one but two of the next three. The millionaire said "that is just pure luck man" from which Player answered "Maybe, but you know sir, the harder I practice, the luckier I get."
But the difference that makes the difference is ...