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Created by Gary Lavery on May 28th, 2016.
SO THERE I WAS, sitting in the Eitiad Business Lounge in Abu-Dhabi International Airport waiting for my outbound connecting flight to Pune in India. The local time here was 10:45pm, I had been travelling since 3:45am UK time in order to fly from Manchester International Airport and to say it out loud "I was ABSOLUTELY emotionally, mentally and physically knackered".
I had said "Goodbye" to my loving family the evening before. And in all honesty leaving them behind for 8 weeks was tough, probably the hardest thing I have ever, EVER done in my life to date. Shortly afterwards my oldest son, Liam wrote a lovely message on Facebook, "See you in 8 weeks - To the best Dad in the World". His message really did touch me inside from an emotional aspect, not just because I was going away for such a length of time, but for the empowering words and loving connection I have with him. WOW!
But as I sat there patiently waiting inside the lounge, I just couldn't get Liam's message out of my head, it was so moving. My mind was starting to doubt whether I could really do this length of time away from him because I really did feel it emotionally. I knew that I needed to stay focused on the NOW and what was coming up in front of me. This was a real challenge of mind over matter.
Then within seconds my emotional state took another nose dive down the "blackhole" ...
Created by Gary Lavery on May 25th, 2016.
Living in the NOW is the only thing that can possibly be real. The only time that matters is the moment that you’re in right NOW! ... So NOW counts.
Let’s think about it a bit more. We know that who we are is a build up of all of the things that have ever happened to us, all of the experiences that we’ve had, and the people that have ever influenced our seemingly insignificant lives. All of this has placed us in to the position that we are living in right NOW, but if we don’t concentrate on the moment of NOW then it will just happen to us, and we won’t even notice it. And isn’t life too short to miss out on NOW.
Any bad experiences or memories can affect how we live in the NOW, but if we concentrate on NOW then we can take control.
Consciousness is old wisdom. It has been taught and passed down through various belief systems, and the old eastern philosophies are based on this principle. By using meditation, a person can train the mind to block out the invasive thoughts that occupy a persons mind, and instead replace them with a clarity of consciousness in the very moment, that by definition is life.
Reality is not a memory, or a perception of a memory, that has happened in the past; and it’s not a vision or a prediction of a future event. Reality is NOW. It is the only truth that we can all rely upon. Many, if not all, issues a person has with their mind (stress, anxiety, phobias, control, confidence) all stem from a person forgetting about NOW and instead concentrating on something that has either happened already, or never happened at all.
Created by Gary Lavery on May 17th, 2016
WE ALL KNOW how important a psychological edge can be in sport. People can train and train and train, but if on game day their mindset goes, then guess what … they’re going home with a bunch of “what if’s”. This can happen to anyone, at any level!
Personally I’ve worked with a number of professional sports performers in different sports that for whatever reason have lost their psychological edge, or got "The Yips" as some performers call it. It usually happens after a length of time out of the game, maybe because of injury, or a particularly bad run of form, or an influential person’s negative opinion. However it comes about, it usually manifests in the same way, a gradual and increasing loss of confidence and self-belief.
And why not? - It stands to a reason at some point or another a person is going to allow self-doubt to creep in to what they do. We’ve all experienced this at sometime, some of us have experienced it more than others, but we all know what this feels like. The problem is not just confined to sport either, what about when your confidence is dented in some other area of your life ... it’s the same feeling, right?
So what could you possibly do about it? ...