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Created by Gary Lavery on May 9th, 2016.
IT WAS ONE of the most beautiful Monday mornings for a while, with not a smudge of white cloud in the blue sky, with the yellow sun shining down in all of its glory. Alongside this, the birds played a part in this and they were singing their hearts out, to only a song they would know.
Until recently, the small village of Horden in County Durham has welcomed someone else into the community. And as I stood outside the gates, looking through the green iron bar gaps, there in the distance I could see right in front of me just what I wanted to see.
The Welfare Park in Horden, is blessed with surrounding beauty, community history and individual memories of past days. Also, within the park location is a football ground, cricket ground, rugby ground, bowling greens and activity play ... But I wasn't here for any of that today.
As I started walking down the long stretch of path, it was hard not to notice the superb beds of flowers showing colours of yellow, red, white and lilac, which were among the lush green grass. A park of high standards and ultimate maintenance, shown by those who work there.
I wasn't here on business either, I was here to see this NEW guy, who really did come from nowhere. And one thing is for sure, he represents a community that once had an element of darkness and total togetherness. At over 7ft tall, he stands alone day and night looking toward the direction of the now invisable, Horden Colliery Pit.
This person represents a community story of spirit and fight, especially for to those people both past and present. His name is "MARRA" - the people's champion.
But who does he represent in my life ...
Created by Gary Lavery on May 3rd, 2016.
KNOWN as "DP" to those around him, he was a man who graced the green fields of many cricket clubs all over the North East of England for 15 years. He was a man who people would describe as "inspirational", "simply the best" and a "match winner".
These people would also refer to "DP" as a GENTLEMEN because he connected with everyone around him, both on and off the field of play, and valued the friendship of others. His name was Derrick Recaldo Parry.
Derrick, was from the small island of Nevis, which forms part of the Leeward Islands in the West Indies. During the summer months, from 1981-1996, he would play club cricket as an overseas professional in the North East of England for a former mining village called Horden.
Throughout this small village, Derrick become a truly respective figure and was just as popular as the "Pied Piper of Hamelin". Simply, because when "DP" was playing cricket at the Horden Welfare Park ground, you just had to be there, incase you missed something special. And people did, they came from all over the region, just to watch him play cricket.
His presence around the club was massive. When "DP" spoke inside the dressing room or on the field EVERYBODY listened to him carefully, not just because he was such an influential figure, but there was always something to learn from him. Even today, those players who had been fortunate enough to play alongside "DP" still tell many great stories about the influence he had on there personal game and his many great performances.
And it was ONE conversation with "DP" that changed my thinking forever ...
Created by Gary Lavery on April 28th, 2016.
SOME people say "There's always tomorrow." But what if you were in the same emotional state or mindset as you were the day before, what would the result be?
Right now, I want you reflect over yesterday, to see how many of these positive emotions you actually did experience: energetic, enthusiasm, laughter, desire, fun, confident and passion. Or perhaps yesterday could have gone the other way, to the point where you experienced negative emotions like: anger, miserable, blame, disappointed, nervous and fear.
We are only HUMAN and we are ALL different in many ways, such how we respond to specific situations in life ...
Try this if you would please: Can you remember a time, a specific time, when you reacted "aggressively" to someone? - Now, go back to that time and think about the way you reacted to the other person.
Was that really YOU? - Did you plan how you were going to respond to that situation inside your own mind before you acted, or was it a spur of the moment reaction where you ended up saying to yourself and others "it just happened, it wasn't really me". In all honesty, I'm sure we have all said something like this at some point in our life.
Perhaps the above situation brought up "YOUR STUFF". Maybe you can recall other situations just like the one above when you have displayed negative emotional states. So my question here is, "what if you knew HOW to change your emotional state at THAT time, would this have changed your outcome of that situation?