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Created by Gary Lavery on April 6th, 2017
ONE of the most profound experiences throughout my NLP personal development journey was during my NLP Master Practitioner training course in Manchester, almost 5 years ago.
As part of our NLP Modelling exercise, we all had to model the behaviour and expertise of our then NLP trainer Bruce Farrow, who showed us how to perform a Board Break elegantly by just using your hand.
The process of doing this involved watching Bruce first of all perform the actual skill. We then asked him specific questions to uncover his values and beliefs, strategies he used from start to finish, and his physiology like breathing and posture. Once we had all the above information, we then had the challenge of installing everything we knew inside of our own neurology to successfully complete the task in hand.
But what actually did happen next ...
Created by Gary Lavery on March 29th, 2017
HAVE YOU EVER stopped to think about this question ...
"Why DON'T you do some of the things you know you SHOULD do?"
Everything we do, we do for a reason. We may not even be aware of the reason consciously, however there is undoubtedly a single driving focus behind all human behaviour. You probably didn't know about this until now, but there is a driving force controlling you even as you read this text, and this force will be with you for the rest of your days. Everything you and I do, we do out of our need to avoid PAIN, or our desire to gain PLEASURE.
Frequently, during conversations I hear people talk about changes they really want to make within important areas of their life, like business, career, health, personal growth, etc. They may feel frustrated, or overwhelmed, or even aggressive within themselves, because they know they NEED to take action, but really cannot move out of a particular gear called procrastination.
Created by Gary Lavery on March 22nd, 2017
WORDS are very powerful. Think about it for a moment, for example, words can start world wars and street fights, but they can also build loving relationships and inner self confidence.
You cannot not use words in your life. Even if you are not actually speaking to another person, your inner voice is probably talking to you.
Recently, I came across a piece of work by Geoffrey Miller, who is an American psychologist. Miller said "We have a possible vocabulary of 60,000 words. However, we tend to draw on just 4,000 of those words in our life. Even worse, in work terms where we work with familiarity and process, this can go as low as drawing on the same 100 words, most of which are in negative or below the line". He also said that "when we meet someone, we will say more to them in the first 6 months than we will in the next 6 years."